You know that feeling when it feels like you’re at the top of the world. I felt like a conqueror. I felt like I had conquered the love which does not die with time. Something beautiful; something eternal. Something which could only grow with time. Something immeasurable.
I still remember the way He would put his chin up to smile at me when I would play with my watch on the cold flat surface of the second floor, and each time it was about to fall he’d catch it. In a stretched analogy, he didn’t just save the watch, He was saving me – from falling. The way He then looked up at me like I meant everything to him. The way He would take money out of his own wallet to get me water because I looked dehydrated. The way his nose would crinkle when he would be upset. The traffic outside The Lyceum was loud, and it was deafening. The world outside our bubble would be crossing by at a really fast pace but time stopped when he was there. Even though we didn’t have much, we had everything. He used to tell me just conversing with me would calm him. What a little thing so many took for granted. It made me realise what I wanted was this. I was enough for him. Enough to make him happy. Enough to make him laugh.
So where do all these little things go? Little things which once meant everything. Sometimes I wonder how easily people forget. I will never understand how they can forget those who they are in debt to for carving a curve on their countenance. How do you forget what you felt? To me, it began to feel real when we not only laughed together but cried, too. When the world seemed to gang up against us, but it was us against it. I remember everything.
As time went on, I started getting less and less enough. I admit I was guilty of not knowing what I exactly had to do in this but I mean then again who really does. But, I somewhat had an idea. Communication is key. The words He constantly repeated. Communication is key. Communication, the word that He engraved in my heart. I was shy. I took a little bit of time to open up, but i did. Communication is key, He would say again as He dismissed my shy nature. Communication, the word that I thought of even as I slept. I need to be more effective at this, I would think. This is how you make a relationship successful my blind heart would whisper; this is how they last; this is how they work.
Then came being told I did not know how to be there, and be of comfort. So, I took a step back and began to reevaluate myself to shape a new me in accordance to what he deemed correct. Maybe there was something wrong with me? Something which I was lacking? So I changed myself because all I craved was the security which seemed to linger in the sugarcoated words coming from him. But what I was also guilty of was not pronouncing my worth when there was clearly a need for it. He told me he had experience which was much more than mine. He said he knew what he was doing and how relationships work. But apparently I did not know. I made an effort to the extent I began to place myself second to become the “right” person. Communication is key. But, does communication still act vital when in the process of you changing, the other person becomes emotionally void. What are words without actions? Empty.
You know that day when everything feels wrong? When you feel like a victim and it’s cruel out there. Nothing works in your favor. Your mom says no. Your dad says no. Friends feel more than an arm length away. You say no to yourself. You’re shot. You’re down. When even you can’t help yourself get up. It’s just that one day when it gets too much. You feel stripped. You feel naked. You’re raw. There are feelings inside you – sentiments – oozing out.
There was this one time when I felt done with the world too. When I felt small and the world felt big. I hated everyone that one day. I needed to let it out but not in the artificial manner. I wanted to say all those things that I thought in their raw form. At this point I thought that that stage was reached where for the first time in my life I could be myself. Be myself not just when I’m happy but also when I’m frustrated. Letting the words in my heart out on my tongue became a mistake for me. I was judged. I was told He needs to reevaluate whether I was still the right person or not and He wanted his parents to hear this in due time so they too could see my raw side. All I did was express how I felt everyone was against me and the world was a harsh place. It really is a harsh world. One day of weakness. Just one. Wounds were already cut open that day and miraculously those wounds sowed themselves shut to never let anyone ever glance a site of weakness or rawness ever again.
I always knew He wasn’t good for me. There was anger involved. Anger tied to the past. Anger which was triumphed over temporarily – something which He often owed to the day I was befriended. Love didn’t only make me blind but He turned a blind eye too. And in the worst way possible, it hurt. It hurt to the point that my heart would yell out a cry by the end.
He told me He liked challenges, but when the hardest one came He succumbed to himself. I was always enough but He succumbed because He was never enough for himself. But I was adamant I was going to do everything it took to make this work. While I was too busy changing into the “right” person, He too was busy transforming.